Korean american dating culture
The pressure is amplified in the confines of Korea’s communal Confucian society.
There is no romance in Korea attached to the outcast, the outsider. So, compelled by the loneliness of my solitudinous studio apartment existence in South Korea and sick of standing at the bar by myself quaffing my beer and watching my expat cohorts canoodling with their Korean significant others, I endeavored to find myself a Korean girlfriend.
Interracial marriage statistics indicate that Asians marry out the most, excluding Native americans.
Asians marry out at 28% , versus that of 19% for African Americans , and 7% for whites.
And so, under my pretense of wanting to improve my Korean speaking ability and under her pretense of wanting to improve her English, I met with a Korean college student who lived near me at a café located between our two apartments. The objective of our weeknight excursion was plainly for her to capture photographs documenting her new Caucasian romance, a series of contrived selfies of us beneath the white early April blossoms or in front of the twinkling backdrop of Haeundae Beach with its row of overpriced hotels.
All of the photos were promptly posted to Facebook that evening.
In the crude social economy of heterosexual male expats living in South Korea, having a Korean girlfriend is a sort of measure of success.
You can learn the language and forge all of the platonic friendships with locals that you like, but as far as anyone else is concerned in the expat scene you haven’t truly “arrived” until you have a Korean girlfriend or spouse.
A Korean teacher of ours told us that the men here absolutely love to dote on their girlfriends. ); every time we see a matching couple, we have to be the first one to say “” and we get to hit the loser).
The vocal minority claims that all we need to do is go on a quest of personal improvement , and magically , these dating woes will just magically disappear.
But let’s start by looking at the raw statistics for the interracial dating disparity between Asian men and women, because they don’t lie.
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In Korea, coupledom is as much about the performance of coupledom as it is about dating itself.